Point not to what your partner does to “cause” the relational conflict, rather ask, “What is it that I am responsible for?” “How do my motives, actions or lack of action perpetuate the disconnect with my partner?” After all, it only takes one person to respond in a different, non-habitual way for the dynamic to change, for the interaction to be altered. Relationships are always a 50/50 proposition. You are only in control of your 50%, but you are 100% responsible for this.
